Sunday, April 27, 2025

Karyn January Cheng

I’ve struggled to find the right words for this. I had intended to share these thoughts on January 31, Karyn’s birthday, but I couldn’t bring myself to do it. I felt that once posted, I’d have to fully accept that Karyn is no longer part of my tangible world. Still, I struggle to comprehend that my roommate from college, who has been there for so many milestones in my life, is truly gone.

There is so much I will miss...
Her sparkling bright eyes dancing as she breaks into a huge, warm smile...
Her contagious laugh erupting spontaneously over the silliest little things...
All her nuanced, varying facial expressions — of which her quizzical looks and excited expressions stand out the most in my mind.

I will miss receiving Christmas cards and birthday cards written with the most perfect, beautiful handwriting — it really should be patented into a computer font. I remember glancing over at her exquisite notes while sitting next to her during lectures. Gaping in awe, I felt compelled to write neater myself.

Karyn had a knack for finding treasures — small, thoughtful gifts that always felt handpicked for your soul. Simple, yet deeply meaningful.

Other fond moments that stand out:
Waking up to the sound of her conversing with her family of seals in "stuffed animal language" every morning...

Curling up to watch Beaches (the 1988 musical comedy) on my tiny 13" TV-VCR combo, perched atop our lofted dorm beds, sipping sweet hot drinks, laughing and crying together in the soft dark...

I can still recall bits and pieces of conversations from the countless talks we had — sharing stories about growing up, about our extended families and the black sheep among them, about high school prom, about boys, and about our dreams for the future...

She was there for all the significant occasions in my life — present during my highest highs and a solid support during my lowest low as well.

Later, even when life pulled us to opposite coasts, we made time to reconnect, to share meals, to make memories. Those who know Karyn know — every trip promised amazing food! Our last plans were disrupted by Covid and I'm most heartbroken that we were not able to squeeze in just one more adventure together... we were aiming for 2025... so you see... I am still really not yet completely accepting that our journey here has come to an abrupt pause... ... ...

Well, they say pictures speak a thousand words, so here are a few snapshots…

a glimpse of her silliness... this was during college...

MIT graduation in 1997...

my wedding day in 2002...

She was one of the first folks to visit after I had my firstborn in 2007

afternoon tea in Chicago

yummy breakfast

one of my very favorite dinners ever... Mexico 2018


I miss you, dear friend... ... ... 

I miss your light, your laughter, and your love.

Until we meet again...